I Really Want to Know…

This is going to be a simple post. I want to know why minors, say 14 of age, can’t consent to sex with adults, but they can be charged as “adults” for crimes. It seems that we all know, when thinking about our past, that our decisions regarding sex were immature as younger teenagers. Most of us would claim that a 4o something having sex with a 14 year old is molestation, but yet, we can AND do charge 14 year olds as adults.

Yes, we want justice for things like murder and burglary. I’m not saying teenagers shouldn’t be punished for crimes, but they are NOT adults. We will prosecute adults for having sex with someone under, usually, around 16, even if  the child says “yes.” Why? Because, they are not adults. They do not have adult brains, and they are not finished maturing and developing. Thus, they cannot give consent to an ADULT sexual experience. I agree with this sentiment whole heartedly.  What sense does it, then, make to treat them as adults in ANY other circumstances?

The media certainly doesn’t help in certain criminal cases involving minors. They like to show the shocking cases of particularly brutal murders by young teenagers, and we are tempted to call them monsters. There is an immediate gut reaction to want to punish as much as possible. There is a reaction in us that wants to make an exception to the idea of the immaturity and underdevelopment of minors in these cases.

This is my questions to my readers: if we can’t trust young teenagers with such a simple thing as deciding on adult sexual encounters, how then, can we trust their decision making process, in the realm of ADULT crime?


Please, I want to know your thinking. Please feel free to comment.


Life is Fragile

Life is fragile, and I don’t mean this in just the sense that we will all die one day. Everything in your personal life can fall apart, quite easily I might add. A person can, unfortunately, develop a mental disorder. Unexpected bills can pop up at the same time a person loses their job abruptly. We are all just a few short steps away from staring at the abyss. I’m not being pessimistic. I’m making a point. Everything we loves in life whether it be our health, our sanity, our possessions, or even our relationships can wither away in what seems like an instant.

Most of us teeter around thinking if we work hard and make good decisions everything will work out. Or a person may think if they have God on their side, they simply cannot fail. Well, I don’t think either of the those notions are true. Now, certainly, making good decisions and working hard can, perhaps, curb the probability of the good life in one’s favor. Still, nothing is guaranteed in life, so we end up walking around in self delusion.

Perhaps, this need for self-delusion is why people “need” religion in the first place. Perhaps, they just need to believe everything will work out the end. Unfortunately, this is often enough not the case, and yes, peoples’ lives, even religious peoples’ lives, can end up in complete tragedy.

I am not, for one moment, trying to make believers seem either weak or crazy. I cannot blame them for their needs. I think the beautiful, although inaccurate, belief that everything is going to be okay, is unavoidable. It is a very human need, and without it being fulfilled, one can easily become neurotic.

Still, I do not suggest we walk around ignoring that everything in life is fragile, but if one does work hard and strives to make good decisions, one should not dwell on the possibility that everything could be ripped out from under them. It’s simply not beneficial to our mental state.

Is God Evil?

“Killing must feel good to God, too. He does it all the time, and are we not created in his image?” -Hannibal Lecter from Hannibal

The above quote is from the short-lived show Hannibal, but it is very similar to quote from Lecter in the book Red Dragon by Thomas Harris.

Anyways, I’ve been reading the Hannibal Lecter series, and I’m well aware, as far as books go, the Lecter series is mostly just “junk” entertainment. Still, Hannibal’s view on God did make think. The God I usually consider is the western monotheistic concept of God. That is to say, he is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnibenevolent. He’s also self existing and eternal. So, most of my arguments of God do not consider that western philosophy of religion and theology are patently wrong about the properties of the deity, but what if a deity that is evil or just simply not omnibenevolent existed?

Well, there would still be the problem of omniscience paired with omnipotence. However, the problem of evil would completely dissipate. I find this interesting.

Now, I know the Hindu deity Shiva is said to be both a destroyer and benevolent entity. It would be interesting to debunk Shiva or Shiva like conceptions of deities, but of course, I’m from the west. So, I haven’t had much need to do this.

I’m NOT saying I just converted to Hinduism. I still doubt there is a deity. What I am saying is that it is interesting, and it leads me to think that I haven’t paid enough attention to Hinduism as far their argument for a deity.

I think at base. We could manipulate any characteristics of God into anything we want, and we could call this entity a deity.Still, it would be a created entity and not a God.

I guess I’m rambling now, but I thought it was interesting. And, I thought I would share my thoughts with my readers. Please feel free to comment!

The Internet Age: A Whole New Type of Parenting

The internet has changed the world as much if not more so than the invention of the printing press. Information both reputable and non-reputable is no more than a click a way. Additionally, the internet has changed the social sphere as well. One can now easily keep in touch with both old friends and new friends. Pictures and status updates let anyone know what their friends are up to in real time. Many other spheres of society have also changed. Unfortunately, the children of the internet age are being raised by those who were not from the internet age, and we now have children and teenagers using the internet irresponsibly.

Teenagers and children are not known for their reasoning skills and with good reason. They CAN’T reason like adults. The frontal lobe, which is responsible for higher reasoning, is one of the last parts of the brain to develop fully, and brain development is not usually complete until around ages 21-25. It is bad parenting to expect teenagers to behave as if they have the reasoning skills of adults.

And yet, people are interacting with the internet at younger and younger ages. Many don’t monitor their wards’ internet access, or they operate in a trust centered approach. Teenagers are also known to be rebellious, and it is easy to be rebellious when you can do things in secret.like having two Facebook profiles or snap chatting nude photos. Remember, teenagers can’t and won’t reason like adults. This kind of behavior really should be looked for.

It gets worse, many of online bad behaviors are being criminalized. Teenagers sending naked pictures of themselves, can be considered distribution of child pornography. Posting mean things to each others profiles can, in some instances, be seen as cyber bullying, and anti-bullying laws are getting more widespread and stricter. Nothing a teenager posts will every really go away. In an age when employers use google, what a teenager posts could haunt them for years if not for lifer.

Parents consider this blog post a warning. It is important for you to understand how the internet works. It is important for you to keep up with the latest apps and technology. I know you all want to protect your children. Keeping up with the internet age will help you do this. Monitor, search, and keep informed.


Tribalism, at first glance, seems to be one of the worst forces for evil. It is responsible for racism. It is responsible for sexism. It was responsible for NAZI Germany, and yet, I doubt tribalism will ever go away. I think most of us cling to some type of tribe. Perhaps a person is proud of being a Democrat, a student, or member of a religion. I observe all of this, and I wonder if tribalism can be a force for good.

Much of the time tribalism doesn’t lead to genocide or racism. Being proud of being a member of a group, can lead to a sense of community. A sense of community can lead to mutual care between members. Unfortunately, this sense of community often leads to the group taking care of themselves first, and it doesn’t always lead to caring for those outside of the group.

However, if everyone belonged to a group, then everyone,perhaps, would have others to care for them. Ideally, everyone could belong to a non-radical group, and everyone would keep the group in check. ( I don’t know, if that’s possible or not). It would nice, if we could use tribalism as a force for good.

I’m not married to any of these thoughts. These ideas are based on me being practical. I’m not for tribalism, but I seriously doubt we will ever see the end of tribalism. If I’m right, then our only choice seems to be to use tribalism as force for good.